Hi I'm Jude and my mission is to help bereaved parents move from Sadness to Sunshine, whilst keeping a Soul bond with the child they have lost.
I know it is possible to transform your life using EAM (the Energy Alignment Method Ⓡ) as I have lived this transformation and witnessed countless others transform their lives, even after the worst trauma such as losing a child.
I hold this vision for you, so please just hold onto the possibility that you could get some Sunshine back into your life.
I run ground-breaking programs based on my unique 4 C’s solution and the Energy Alignment Method Ⓡ to empower bereaved parents to transform their lives and be happy again, on both a 1-1 basis and in small groups.
My experience of Child loss, Miscarriage and my journey into the world of Complementary Therapy...
I'm going to take you back 30 years. I'm a 20-year-old, living with my boyfriend in the lovely Kent countryside, life was good and I was expecting my first child. On the 9th February 1988 my beautiful baby boy ‘Adam’ was born my life was complete and everything was perfect!
A few months later, my relationship with his father broke down, so I moved back home to my parents for a while, then I bought a flat, a home for Adam and I and again life was 'good'. He was my whole world, we had a 'normal life' I worked, so he spent some days with my retired parents and some days with a lovely childminder. One day at work, I got a phone call, to say Adam had been sick again, Adam had been ill for a few weeks following his MMR injection at 18 months. I returned home and took him to my Doctor, who referred me to our local hospital where several days later I received the diagnosis that he had a brain tumour and my world crumbled on me!
A couple of years of treatment followed, Adam had an operation then a course of Chemotherapy and Radiotherapy, he was so brave, he just took it all in his stride, he didn't know any different. I remember one time he asked one of his friends at play school, "which hospital do you go to?" as he thought it was just ‘normal’ life.
For a while we had Adam back! We were told the Cancer was in remission...... but at his 6-month check-up I got the world’s worst news........
The Tumour was BACK .. and much, much bigger than before and that's where I was given Adams TERMINAL Diagnosis.
That Dagger in your heart moment .... Yours will have been different to mine, but we would have all shared the same Devastation.... The moment our hearts broke!
I was lucky as I did get to spend a few months more with him, but tinged with the sadness of seeing him melt away as the tumour slowly but surely took over.... and eventually I had to say goodbye to him, it felt like my whole world had ended!
My parents had bought me up with the 'you just get on with things' mentality , so I 'Soldiered on' and forced myself to 'get on with life' I was still only young and although I would have swapped places with Adam in a heartbeat, that wasn't possible and so I had to 'move on' and live my life.
It wasn't easy and now I know I blocked some emotions and didn't allow myself to fully feel, heal and move on.
In the next few years I was struck by the loss of both my parents, my Dad had a fatal heart attack and my mum passed away about 18 months from Kidney issues, but still my life went on goes on.
In 1998 I married and my 2nd son Nathan was born to my new husband and I..... a few months later I fell pregnant again and this baby was due around Nathans' 1st Birthday, but once again I had a 2nd 'Dagger in my heart moment' and suffered a miscarriage.
In 2000 I was blessed with the birth of my 3rd Son Daniel, so here I am a young Mum with two little boys Nathan & Daniel, both boys knew from a young age about their brother and grandparents that they would never physically know. I thought I had dealt with my loss as best one can, with the knowledge I had at the time and 'life' went on.
Fast forward a few years, in 2016 I was running a successful social media business and attended a Public speaking workshop where the topic was storytelling, someone else was sharing a personal story about their child being diagnosed with terminal cancer and immediately the floodgates opened it was like Niagara Falls, I was suddenly transported back 25 years to uncontrollable grief, I was bereft.
I realised I had been bottling this up for 25 years, it was like a dam had been broken and the floodgates of emotions had come surging through. I still tried to squash these emotions that had come flooding out and raised to the surface.
I was thinking I had 'dealt with' this, it was years ago...
A few months later I attended a business retreat based on the Energy Alignment Method, our first activity was to write down our 3 intensions for the weekend.
My 1st two were business related and the 3rd one which was only in my head, I didn't even write it down! It was to be able to talk about my son Adam who I lost 25 years ago without breaking down into tears, I barely got to the end of the sentence before the dam opened again and I was once again in floods of tears instantly transported back in time.
Using the EAM techniques I released all the feelings that had surfaced around Adams death which had been buried for years.
Yvette who created the Energy Alignment Method Ⓡ . or EAM as it is known for short, asked me what I would want for other parents in my situation.... through tears at that time, I said I would just want them to 'be happy'. As after all everything we do in life at our core is to feel better.
It was later that day, when Yvette said these powerful words to me 'Do you really think you should be doing Social media as a business or should you be doing something else?' I knew exactly what she was asking me.
At this point I just wanted hide under a blanket and disappear.
The day carried on, after the seed had been sown.... that evening I did what we all do today when we want to know something 'I googled it' . I searched to see what help was out there and the main thing I found on the blogs and websites , was that it was all quite negative, to the point on some blogs/ groups, that you never 'get over your loss' 10, 20 years later people were still struggling to deal with Birthdays, Christmas time or even someone just wishing them a happy new year as they innocently knew nothing of their loss.
I actually felt quite glad at this point, that the internet wasn't around when I lost Adam, as if I had seen this sort of thing when I was at my lowest point, it may have sunk me to an even lower level which I don't even want to think about....
I have always had an inner positive attitude which I believe is what got me through this tough situation when I lost Adam, as well as the support I had from close friends and family. Although, I discovered later that I had not fully dealt with some thoughts and emotions relating to losing Adam.
I feel that at this time, when your world has been blown apart and shattered into a million pieces, you need to have hope to be able to move forward in a new direction, belief that you can deal with your thoughts and feelings and work through them, so you can move forward with your life and maybe one day be happy again!
The following morning our task was to plan the program that we would offer to our customers. Yvette said if we didn't know where to start, we could just use the 10 pain points of our client that we worked on yesterday and place them in the order which it would be best to deal with them. I wrote my 10 pain points on post it notes, grabbed myself a sheet of flip chart paper and wrote loss of a child in the bottom left-hand corner and Happy, confident successful life in the top right-hand corner. I ordered the post it notes in between these 2 points in a step like format to the top. Yvette was going around checking on how everyone was getting on, she came over to me and said...'oh my god I'm so excited you are doing this - I've got Goosebumps'
This was where Sadness to Sunshine was born.
I just feel like I have a bungee cord attached to my heart, that I need to help parents like you that have been through this most devastating loss and give you the foundations for a way forward. It can be done, it is possible, no matter how sad, devastated or hopeless you feel right now.
Jude Hill is an UK based author and leading voice in the field of ‘Life after loss’ using a transformational Energy technique and her four C’s model, she empowers you to move from Sadness to Sunshine.
Her book, Sadness to Sunshine, a compassionate guide for bereaved parents; Empowering you to transform your life and be happy again is available to buy or you are able to sponsor a copy for Just £10 which will then be given FREE to a bereaved parent via various bereavement Charities and Hospices etc...
Jude’s book is such a support to parents who have lost a child and don't know how to move their life forward.
Jude's own experiences of child loss and the ability to come out the other side has given her the knowledge and skills to show the way forward; from sadness to sunshine.
She understands that your memories will never fade, but moving on is something this book can help parents with. Sadness To Sunshine is written from the heart and also provides a practical way to see the sun rise once again.
Emily Hughes Number Savvy Numerology
This book has touched my soul and I would fully recommend it.
The path of Energy healing really can help you move through your grief and into the Sunshine. I loved how you explained how to Care, Communicate, Connect and ultimately Create a ‘new normal’.
Jude speaks from her heart, the connection she creates with her audience is natural and effortless.
Her 4 C's method is simple yet effective. She is a warm, authentic & sensitive speaker who shares her own story honestly in order to inspire others to move from ‘Sadness to Sunshine’.
Samantha Selby The Birth Healer
Jude is a warm, friendly and heartfelt speaker.
I've seen her talk on a few occasions now on this touching but difficult subject, and it's easy to feel how much this sad time in her life has helped her to want to help others that have been through a similar situation. I take my hat off to her, out of adversity has come her strength
Sara Fox The Feel Good Business Woman
Jude is a real ray of sunshine to parents who have suffered the trauma & grief of losing a child, especially after having first-hand experience of her own personal bereavement when she lost her son.
Jude not only offers support through this difficult ordeal, but is also able to reach out to many more people as the author of her recently published book: “ Sadness to Sunshine.”
Having worked with Jude & experienced the mentoring process she uses to help bereaved parents on their healing journey, I was amazed at how powerful her work is & how it can enable you to move on to living a more positive & fulfilled life leaving the pain & sadness of trauma & grief behind.
Thank you so much Jude for introducing me to your magic, I would definitely recommend that you should try it out for yourself.
I am so excited and amazed by Jude. She has taken this mission and dedicated herself to doing this work and sharing it with the world.
She made the courageous decision to help other parents who have lost a child, and suffered this most soul-destroying experience, by training to become an EAM Mentor. She continues to grow and expand in so many ways as she focuses on her new mission in life.
Her passion, excitement and dedication are incredible: She literally shines from the inside out, I can’t believe the woman she is now. It is like she has come back to life! When you meet Jude, you’ll see this inner glow, she has so much joy and zest about her again - all of which are contagious. I am so delighted that she has stepped into the role as an EAM mentor; I know she will be changing the lives of so many.
I have so much admiration for Jude and wish her every success as she shares this journey of ‘Sadness to Sunshine’ with you. Just trust her and follow the steps, as she is living proof that it IS possible to love those you have lost and still smile and enjoy your life again.
Yvette Taylor Creator of The Energy Alignment Method – EAM ®
She is a total inspiration and talented lady.
Jude has been working with her social media business for a number of years, she has decided to give it all up to run full time with her new business 'Sadness To Sunshine' helping people who have lost a child.
She herself lost her little boy to cancer a number of years ago and thought she had dealt with the grief, but she realised this was not the case and through addressing her own grief she is now helping others to resolve these painful losses. This work is very brave and not an easy field to pursue, and it would have been so much easier for her to carry on with the business she had established. She has started again, from scratch and is gaining traction, written a book and is out there doing this fabulous and much needed work.
Aly Harrold Public speaking coach
It’s an amazing therapy, try it out you won’t be disappointed!
Thank you, Jude for my EAM session. You left me feeling free from the blocks that I had described to you, I felt tired in the evening and after an early night, I awoke feeling rested and energised. I checked in with the sway to see if I was still feeling good and I certainly am. If anyone hasn’t spoken to Jude about EAM, it’s an amazing therapy, try it out you won’t be disappointed!